Nobody Asked the Kids

Dad Kills Wife, Kids Before Turning Gun On Himself
AP LOS ANGELES – A man who fatally shot his wife, five young children and himself Tuesday had earlier faxed a note to a TV station claiming the couple had just been fired from their hospital jobs and together planned the killings as a final escape for the whole family. “Why leave the children to a stranger?” Ervin Lupoe wrote, according to KABC-TV.

How can anyone who claims to love his/her children believe that they would be better off dead than “left with strangers?” Do they think they will see them again in “heaven?” Not likely, after committing this totally selfish act! Whatever face these people put on such murder-suicide atrocities, the fate of being raised among “strangers” could not be worse than never getting the chance to live at all. There are plenty of people who were orphaned at a young age, but took the opportunities and challenges of life and made something of themselves.

Life is precious, especially to a child who has hardly lived! I could understand choosing to kill oneself and his family if all of them were facing a slow and painful death by radiation poisoning, or something else from which there was no hope of escaping. But murder-suicide as the solution to this temporary situation, which could have been worked through, cannot be justified. If life means having everything go smoothly, with no problems, no changes, no adjustments to make–if it means never having to pick oneself up and try again–then death is the easy way out.

But they didn’t ask the children, who soon could have been among new friends and family, and could have had the chance to grow up.


Author: b4i4get

I am a 68-yo retired Physical Therapist Asst. living in Texas. Currently I have ~5 dozen webpages, including 3 homepages, an e-novel, and 1 blog. I love cats, writing, and thinking about the big questions. I am also a singer-songwriter, though no one has heard of me--yet.

4 thoughts on “Nobody Asked the Kids”

  1. I hear you Kaye, unfortunately I think we will be seeing more of this as this recession deepens. Maybe the parent who does this feels that there would be no one to take care of the childen when he kills himself. Despair is so very dibilitating.

  2. Some people isolate themselves from the rest of the world in these situations, or have asked for help and found none from family and friends. An unwed mother can legally take her infant to a fire station and leave it, but the parents of 5 children can’t take them anywhere that I can think of and say, “We’re tired of struggling and we’re going to kill ourselves–please take care of our children.”
    In small communities where everyone knows each other, there is help and support when misfortune strikes, but not in a sprawling city like LA. There you apply for your unemployment compensation and food stamps, and hope you can make it until they kick in.
    Perhaps I should not be judgmental, but couldn’t those children have been left with SOMEONE?

  3. I totally agree with you, Kaye. It was a selfish and cruel act to kill his 5 children because of his despair. I can’t help but wonder if these people have a gene missing? They don’t seem to think things out and dash headlong into carrying out what they think is the only solvable answer to their problems. AND, the mother agreed to go along with killing her babies? I can’t fathom that. I’m sure if people knew how desperate they were there would be help for them. The only problem with this is that maybe there wouldn’t be any help? Everyone is scared and having financial problems so maybe he did look for help and didn’t have any success. Couldn’t they live on unemployment wages for awhile? Or, maybe they weren’t citizens of the U.S.? I did’t hear that much about that incident.


  4. I didn’t hear anything about this story after the first few days. I guess because there was no doubt about what happened and who did it. They must have been living paycheck to paycheck, and may have been in debt, also. But I can’t help but think that they could have done something to give up the children to CPS first.

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